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7 stages of grief.



 "But every time you hurt me, the less that I cry. And every time you leave me, the quicker these tears dry. And every time you walk out, the less I love you. Baby, we don't stand a chance, it's sad but it's true."

7 stages of grief ⎸ Fall in love with someone is the best feelings ever but to deal with the grief losing someone that you love is never been easy. Same goes with the death of a loved one, job loss,losing a close friend, all these can leave you brokenhearted which make you feel the world will never be the same again. There are 7 stages of grief based on modified Kubler Ross model. Honestly, i have been go through all these phases. Its hard, you will think that you will die if you live without the loved one, but hey! look at you now, still alive and shit! I won't say that it would be easy but what I'm trying to say is i will always be here to support you..we're together fighting all this shit okay pretty😃

    1.SHOCK
    Initial paralysis at hearing the bad news.  Of course you will be shock, it's still new to you..you will feels like wanna throw up,dizzy, all the information can't be processes. The feelings of betrayed that you can't accept it. feels like your heart being crushes again and again. The more you love that person, more pain you will feel.


             Roses are dead,Violets are dying, Outside I’m smiling, Inside I’m crying

    2. DENIAL 
    Trying to avoid inevitable. You will still thinking that it just a dream.You will prefer to sleep the whole day to avoid facing the truth. Hoping that when you wake up all this bad dream will be over. "Comeback i still need you"

    3.ANGER
    Frustrated outpouring of bottled-up emotion. You will think what have you done, what's wrong with you that you deserved this kind of relationship. The "Why" always be linger in you thoughts. You feels betrayed, feels angry because that person do that to you. Sometimes you will angry with yourself to fall in love with that stupid person. All small little things, such as the behavior that supposed to be a early hint to you, in this time you will start to realize it.

    4.BARGAINING
    Seeking in vain for a way out. When you still in love, somehow you still have hope. Hoping that your ex will get back to you. You would call him/her every day just to get back your love. You will sent a tons of text saying how much he/she mean to you. You would even begging get rid of your ego.

    5.DEPRESSION
    Final realization of the inevitable.
    A long period of sadness may overtake you. You may realize the true magnitude of your loss and it will sadden you. you may isolate on purpose, reflect on things you did with your loss one and focus on memories of the past.

    6.TESTING
    Seeking realistic solution.
    As you start to adjust to life with your loss, your life become a little calmer and more organized. You become more functional and your mind starts working again. You will find yourself seeking realistic solution to problem posed.


    7.ACCEPTANCE
    Finally finding the way forward.
    In the last stage you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily  mean happiness but you will find a way forward.

     








    Hi, I’m Nad.Full time librarian and part time blogger, not to mention that I develop S.O.S (save our space) The Digitalization of damaged books.

    Comments

    1. Teringat zaman frust bercinta dulu. Asyik berendam air mata. Berat badan pun turun. Depan kawan2, pretend macam takde apa2. Until i gather every pieces of myself, standing up and high, nekad utk move on. Terasa lapang sgt jiwa. Alhamdulillah.

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    2. walau macam mana perit pun kesedihan yang melanda, sedikit demi sedikit kita akan move on, seiring dengan masa...cepat atau lambat aje...

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    3. betul..lambat atau cepat..pasti ilang

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    4. Dulu cuma bersedih kejap je sebab more to anger. Then move on. Bukan jodoh dan fikirlah bahawasanya Allah akan berikan jodoh yang terbaik untuk kita :)

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      1. biasalahh rasa marah tu lagi banyak kan..rasa unfair..kikiki

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    5. assalammualaikum..
      hi sis Nad pe khabar.. ^_^

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      1. waalaikumussalam..
        hye cik yaya..sihat alhamdulillah

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    6. hm tak sanggup nak rasa break up tu lagi. dulu selalu bargain, selalu text mintak maaf. sekarang fikir macam bodoh pulak buat camtu hahaha

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      1. kan..ase awat la buat lagu tu...malu seyh..hahaha bodoh pon ada gak

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    7. Kalau putus tanpa rasa cinta kira putus cinta juga tak?

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      1. uishhh soklan...achaner nak jawap tuh..mungkin yea.tapi sejenis yg x broken heart sangat kot..

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    8. Paling sukar bila kehilangan abadi.. bila teringat tu buat kita rindu, rindu yang tak bertepi namun hidup tetap perlu diteruskan..

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      1. kehilangan yang abadi..rindu yang tak terluahkan..moga yang pergi ditempatkan dikalangan orang orang yang beriman..

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    9. Zumal ni semakin hari semakin banyak yang hilang. Masih terasa sampai sekarang

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      1. dugaan utk zumal..kne tabah..yeah walaupun bukan mudah utk lakukan

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    10. I'm not sure at which stage I'm actually at but I know I'm almost there. I'm almost there. Almost.

      Thank you so much for sharing this.

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      1. hey dear...you can do this..you not alone ..chill

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    11. Maybe I am in the 3rd stage now. Adoi la..panjang lagi proses nya. Ada 4 steps lagi huhuhuhu

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      1. hahahha..ni cuma anggaran je..serahkan segalanya pada ALLAH..moga diberikan yang terbaik..moga segala yang hilang diganti seribu kali kebaikan

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