How to deal with depression | Depression (major depressive disorder) is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Fortunately, it is also treatable. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities you once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease your ability to function at work and at home.

Depression symptoms can vary from mild to severe and can include:

• Feeling sad or having a depressed mood
• Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed
• Changes in appetite — weight loss or gain unrelated to dieting
• Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much
• Loss of energy or increased fatigue
• Increase in purposeless physical activity (e.g., inability to sit still, pacing, handwringing) or slowed movements or speech (these actions must be severe enough to be observable by others)
• Feeling worthless or guilty
• Difficulty thinking, concentrating or making decisions
• Thoughts of death or suicide

Symptoms must last at least two weeks and must represent a change in your previous level of functioning for a diagnosis of depression.

Credit to american psychiatric association 

Being listened to

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It is important for people to have the opportunity to explore difficult feelings.  Being listened to in confidence, and accepted without prejudice, can alleviate general distress, despair and suicidal feelings.

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Often being listened to is enough to help someone through a time of distress.  Even just showing that you are there for them, and that you know they are going through a distressing time, can in itself be a comfort.

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Are you a good listener?

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Do you:

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• Always try to give people your undivided attention?

• Let them sit in silence and collect their thoughts if they need to?

• Question them gently, tactfully and without intruding?

• Encourage them to tell their story in their own words and in their own time?

• Refrain from offering advice based on your own experience?

• Always try and see their point of view even though you may not agree with it?

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... these can help show someone that you are really listening to them.

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or Do you:

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• Look around the room or glance at your watch while they are talking?

• Finish their sentences for them and correct their grammar?

• Interrupt to tell them how you once had a similar problem?

• Make a snap judgement based on their accent, dress or personal appearance?

• Tell them what you would do in their position?

• Say you understand before you've heard what their problem is?

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... but these can give the impression that you are not listening.

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Helping a Suicidal Friend or Relative

Be quiet and listen!

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If someone is feeling depressed or suicidal, our first response is to try to help. We offer advice, share our own experiences, try to find solutions.

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We'd do better to be quiet and listen. People who feel suicidal don't want answers or solutions. They want a safe place to express their fears and anxieties, to be themselves.

Listening - really listening - is not easy. We must control the urge to say something - to make a comment, add to a story or offer advice. We need to listen not just to the facts that the person is telling us but to the feelings that lie behind them. We need to understand things from their perspective, not ours.

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Here are some points to remember if you are helping a person who feels suicidal.

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What do people who feel suicidal want?

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• Someone to listen. Someone who will take time to really listen to them. Someone who won't judge, or give advice or opinions, but will give their undivided attention.

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• Someone to trust. Someone who will respect them and won't try to take charge. Someone who will treat everything in complete confidence.

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• Someone to care. Someone who will make themselves available, put the person at ease and speak calmly. Someone who will reassure, accept and believe. Someone who will say, "I care."

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What do people who feel suicidal not want?

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• To be alone. Rejection can make the problem seem ten times worse. Having someone to turn to makes all the difference. Just listen.

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• To be advised. Lectures don't help. Nor does a suggestion to "cheer up", or an easy assurance that "everything will be okay." Don't analyze, compare, categorize or criticize. Just listen.

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• To be interrogated. Don't change the subject, don't pity or patronize. Talking about feelings is difficult. People who feel suicidal don't want to be rushed or put on the defensive. Just listen.

  
  

  credit to befrienders.org.my

Hello October | Thank You to my faithful readers because you made my day and makes me want to constantly updating my blog. I create my blog somewhere around 2012 and that time I still studying. Actually a lot of my teenage post i already deleted from this blog. I couldn't dare to let you guys read it..some of it seems so childish and the choices of words that i been using it's embarrassing me..hahaha  By that time I also on and off blogging, sometimes I will update only 1 post per yea, only recently i became active and have a lot of ideas to share with you guys.For now  as usual, I will do a month goals which is things that I want to archive for this month. Please scroll down.

MY GOALS FOR APRIL  

⎸ I got this box from Cuya! I have already posted about my first mystery box that i received from Kak Sha, you can read it HERE. For those yang baru je follow my blog..anda boleh dapatkan more information about mystery box HERE. Ini adalah segment khas dedikasi untuk para peminat buku.. tak kisahlah novel atau komik atau non fiction.

Sebenarnya AD yang approach Cuya, sebab Cuya pernah komen die teringin nak baca buku english but as usual la buku english memang harga Israel  hahaha. Then since ada a few englsih books yang AD dah siap baca dan sejenis yang suka clearkan shelve so AD terfikir why not bagi je kat Cuya. Then since Cuya cakap die mau then AD pon try risik Cuya if die berminat nak join this segment..since memang nak bagi die buku pon kan. Itulah kisah camner kami boleh terjebak dengan book swapping antara satu sama lain nih.

Tak sangka cepat pula cik Cuya kita hantar box ni..padahal AD yang cakap nak hantar dlu..aipp mana aci nih.. Jom kita unboxing dulu!

First think in my mind bila nampak kotak ni terus cakap gile creative dak nih. gegeh weh siapkan kotak camtu..hape aokmer semua igt senang ke nak create box macam tu..kesabaran itu tinggi tau dak. Ni aokmer tengok ni..kemain banyak weh hadiah lain die bagi..pastu mintak satu je buku die bg extra satu..alolololo syok! Tetiber ase ehh birthday aku arini ke (nampak tak berangan lebey) Bukak2 je ada surat..aww sweet sangat..eh nak tau apa die tulis?nope tak boleh..it's mine! hahaha.

Actually AD ada buku scrap yang AD dedikasikan untuk happy things yang berlaku pada AD. AD akan tampal gambar, notes, tickets anything la..then since AD dapat monsters, my actual plan nak gunting monster tu and letak dalam buku scrap tu.. but end up  my colleague cakap tampal la kat dinding cantik. Since library ada banyak space adn kitwg sejenis yang memang suka decorate library makanya monsters tersebut selamat dilekatkan di dinding. Comel kan..btw AD ada upload unboxing video minta jasa anda semua like and subs hokey.

-XOXO-