"But every time you hurt me, the less that I cry. And every time you leave me, the quicker these tears dry. And every time you walk out, the less I love you. Baby, we don't stand a chance, it's sad but it's true."
7 stages of grief ⎸ Fall in love with someone is the best feelings ever but to deal with the grief losing someone that you love is never been easy. Same goes with the death of a loved one, job loss,losing a close friend, all these can leave you brokenhearted which make you feel the world will never be the same again. There are 7 stages of grief based on modified Kubler Ross model. Honestly, i have been go through all these phases. Its hard, you will think that you will die if you live without the loved one, but hey! look at you now, still alive and
1.SHOCK
Initial paralysis at hearing the bad news. Of course you will be shock, it's still new to you..you will feels like wanna throw up,dizzy, all the information can't be processes. The feelings of betrayed that you can't accept it. feels like your heart being crushes again and again. The more you love that person, more pain you will feel.
Roses are dead,Violets are dying, Outside I’m smiling, Inside I’m crying
2. DENIAL
Trying to avoid inevitable. You will still thinking that it just a dream.You will prefer to sleep the whole day to avoid facing the truth. Hoping that when you wake up all this bad dream will be over. "Comeback i still need you"
3.ANGER
Frustrated outpouring of bottled-up emotion. You will think what have you done, what's wrong with you that you deserved this kind of relationship. The "Why" always be linger in you thoughts. You feels betrayed, feels angry because that person do that to you. Sometimes you will angry with yourself to fall in love with that stupid person. All small little things, such as the behavior that supposed to be a early hint to you, in this time you will start to realize it.
4.BARGAINING
Seeking in vain for a way out. When you still in love, somehow you still have hope. Hoping that your ex will get back to you. You would call him/her every day just to get back your love. You will sent a tons of text saying how much he/she mean to you. You would even begging get rid of your ego.
A long period of sadness may overtake you. You may realize the true magnitude of your loss and it will sadden you. you may isolate on purpose, reflect on things you did with your loss one and focus on memories of the past.
5.DEPRESSION
Final realization of the inevitable.
Final realization of the inevitable.
6.TESTING
Seeking realistic solution.
As you start to adjust to life with your loss, your life become a little calmer and more organized. You become more functional and your mind starts working again. You will find yourself seeking realistic solution to problem posed.
7.ACCEPTANCE
Finally finding the way forward.
In the last stage you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean happiness but you will find a way forward.
Seeking realistic solution.
As you start to adjust to life with your loss, your life become a little calmer and more organized. You become more functional and your mind starts working again. You will find yourself seeking realistic solution to problem posed.
7.ACCEPTANCE
Finally finding the way forward.
In the last stage you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean happiness but you will find a way forward.